In their book Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend discuss how a group of Christian college students answered this question.
The answers went something like this: “I want someone spiritual, godly, ambitious, fun to be with,” and so on. They replied as I had expected. And that disturbed me (Henry), for as a counselor and as a person, I know that these are not the issues that cause relationships to break apart.
It’s not that these answers are unimportant. It’s that “I want to marry someone spiritual” is too broad of a statement. We need to get more specific than blanket religious categories...
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