Book Review: ‘True Love Dates’ by Debra Fileta

I first came across the work of Debra Fileta while reading RELEVANT. I soon found and subscribed to her blog, as her thoughts on healthy relationships are generally spot-on. Here in the Marry Well Lodge, we’ve frequently discussed Fileta’s articles — most recently, her thoughts on Mistakes to Avoid in 2014. When I received an email offer of a complementary copy of her book — True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life — I was thrilled.

I approached the book with fairly high hopes, and I wasn’t disappointed. In the introduction, Fileta lays out a map for where her book will take you.

If you’ve picked up this book, it’s likely that you’re searching for true love. Your desire for marriage may be strong, even feel like a preoccupation that you can’t seem to shake. You might be sick and tired of being single and alone, watching your friends get knocked off, one by one, into the world of love while you feel more and more isolated. Maybe you found someone you thought was “the one,” only to have your heart broken and your hopes shattered, alone once again. In a world that seems to cater to couples and families, sitting at a table for one is the last place you want to be.
But the ironic thing about finding true love is that it must start at a table for one.

And in that statement lies perhaps the greatest strength of Fileta’s book. While many Christian dating books focus on honoring God and the other person, Fileta takes time to focus on the importance of introspection and personal growth. Only after you have learned to to be a whole person can you relate properly to other people and to God Himself.

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