Thursday, May 15, 2014

I Hurt Someone This Week



There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt. ~ Dr. Henry Cloud

A family member posted this quote on Facebook this week. I've read it before, in one of Henry Cloud's books, though the precise title has escaped me. It's a truth I've often remembered when confronted with the dilemma:

1. Tell the truth and hurt someone.
2. Stay quiet and harm someone.

You would think the choice is an easy one, but it isn't. For some of us, it can feel like the most difficult choice in the world.